Learn To Accept Yourself Regardless Of Imperfections!

Everyone has flaws

None of us is perfect and we all have flaws.  No matter how convinced you may be that perfection in others is possible, it’s not so.  There’s no way that you are flawed but others are not.  Think again!  Not a single human being is flawless, so stop beating yourself up.

We are our own worst critics so if you want to move forward in life you have to think differently about yourself. Learn to accept yourself, warts and all. Once you accept who you really are you can start using your flaws and quirks to your advantage.  For one thing they add to your uniqueness.

Lacking self confidence

We have this idea that we are constantly being judged. And that everyone else is looking at our flaws with a magnifying glass. Also that they are waiting for us to fail at whatever it is we do. This too is only a perception, something that comes with lack of confidence in ourselves.

Several years ago I was at one of the many personal development courses that I’ve attended. As a group we’d already spent a lot of time together so were quite comfortable with each other. There were about 50 of us in the group.

Self esteem and body image

And the participants were of various ages, probably mostly between 20 to 60 years old, with more of them young than older. There were several really good looking people that also looked to be in good shape. The type you might think had it all going for them. As I looked around the room what I saw was a perfectly normal group of pretty confident people.

As a part of the whole training experience the facilitator asked “is there anyone here who has something about them that they don’t like”?  Everyone without exception put up their hand.  And then we proceeded to go around the room sharing  what that was.

Not feeling good enough

One after the other shared what they felt was a flaw in them. It went from too short, too tall, too fat, too thin, a scar, their teeth, their hair and so on. Someone didn’t like the way they walked, someone else hated their voice, a crooked nose, long nose, freckles, birth marks, skinny arms, skin issues etc. No one felt good enough!

When you sit in a room with a large group of people and everyone of them felt inadequate in some way it really brings it home to you. Most people find it hard to accept themselves as they are. They don’t look at the many great things about them, they find and focus on the flaws.

Embracing your imperfections

 We should embrace the flaws, blemishes and imperfections and find ways to put them to work.  If you think it’s impossible to do this just look at people like Sylvester Stallone. He was told he would never make it because of his slurred speech. And yet he’s achieve an incredibly long and lucrative acting career.

Another example is Arnold Schwartzenegger, he was told his accent was too thick. Also Charles Darwin wasn’t smart enough, Albert Einstein was a flunky and  Michael Jordan didn’t have enough talent. And then there was Marilyn Monroe who was considered to be too heavy, And the list goes on. They all achieved great success in their lives.

Achieve your goals and dreams

We should be celebrating our differences and not be wasting time berating ourselves for things we believe are inadequacies.

It’s time to take a good look in the mirror to meet and really get to know who you really are. And get comfortable with yourself, flaws and all.  Work on turning what you consider  weaknesses into strengths and go all out to achieve your goals and dreams.

And here’s how you can get it done:

Identify the problem

The first thing you have to do to resolve any problem is first identify the real issue.  Or what we believe the problem, defect or weakness is.  It’s time to get up close and personal with yourself.  What is it that’s really bothering you about yourself?

Is it what you consider to be a flaw in your character, or is it of a physical nature?  Exactly what about this part of you do you find distressing?  What sort of feelings come up for you?

Do you feel self-conscious, that you stand out, undesirable, ashamed or embarrassed?  Define it with a feeling, an emotion.  It’s important to be really truthful with yourself about this.  And It’s totally okay to be vulnerable and remember that this is just you and yourself, having a heart to heart figuring things out.

Become an observer

 We have a tendency to magnify a situation when we’re in the middle of it because we’re the one experiencing it. When you take a step back and look at it from a different angle as an observer it’s very different.

The chances are you’ll see things differently looking from the outside in instead of from an emotional standpoint. And you’ll have a more objective point of view.  When you stop focusing on one point and see the bigger picture often it’s not as big a deal as you first thought.

Become who you were meant to be

 Whatever you consider to be a flaw in you, does this physical or emotional characteristic hinder you from being who you really are and who you want to be?  Is it limiting you in any form or fashion?  And if it is, what can you do to change this?

And more importantly, are you actually willing to do anything about it?   It’s time to be brutally honest with yourself and decide who really has the power. Is it you or are you giving your power away to what you consider the anomaly.

Reframe your story

 We all have our different quirks. Heaven forbid we were all exactly the same. Size looks personalities. things would be boring and we’d be like robots.  There’s meant to be something “different” about every human on this planet.  What a bland uninteresting world it would be!

Instead, we all have a distinct set of characteristics, personalities and looks and we have boundless capabilities! Thank goodness for that!

When you’ve objectively and successfully identified whatever it is that’s irking you, it’s time to reframe it and move on with your life. You need to figure out how this irregularity or whatever you want to call it can be utilized in a positive way.

If it’s something that has been really bothering you it’s obviously been causing you distress. So one of the best ways of flipping it around is by making it useful.  Remove the negative power and replace it with positive.

Embracing Your Power

 You have way more power than you think you have. One of the most empowering things you can do is change your thoughts. If you’re thinking negatively it attracts negativity.

Change those negative thoughts to positive thoughts and you’ll attract positivity into your life. It absolutely works every time. Keep doing it until it becomes a habit and your life will change dramatically. You have the power to change way more than just your own perception of this imperfection.

Positivity is contagious, but so is negativity; so be careful which light you shine, on yourself and others.

Know yourself know your worth

 Become an advocate for yourself as well as for others that are dealing with issues that are affecting their perception of themselves. Recognize your own and other people’s uniqueness and value. We all have something to offer the world!

Admiring the beauty of differences in others goes a long way.

Being flawless is an impossible feat therefore futile and a complete waste of time and energy.  So instead use that energy  on learning how to love yourself and truly accept how incredible you are!  And remember you certainly don’t have to be perfect to love yourself!